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44 Things I’m Thankful For (That Made Me Who I Am Today)

  1. Growing up never doubting I was loved.
  2. A partner who gets me and shares my values.
  3. Finding friends I could be myself with in high school and staying in touch with them to this day.
  4. A family who enjoys each other’s company.
  5. Mom’s never-ending acts of service and care.
  6. Dad’s humor and coaching, teaching me Carpe Diem and to be my own cheerleader.
  7. In-laws I love and a family-by-marriage that is a joy to be part of.
  8. The chance to know all of my grandparents.
  9. Frequent family reunions that built relationships with my cousins in Oregon, Texas, France, and beyond… and introduced me to travel early on.
  10. Two grandmothers who, in some ways, were opposites but both lived just about to 100 years old. Learning how much of my personality I share in common with grand-mère.
  11. Friends and family who went along with my early inklings of entrepreneurship and project management as a child, from a handmade jewelry shop in the basement and unsanctioned lemonade stand at a State Park, to orchestrating “practice” for a “circus” performance and making movies with lego and Barbies.
  12. The opportunity to try different things as a child, even if I never got very good at them – gymnastics, swimming, golf (still really not a fan – sorry, not sorry), soccer, drawing, pottery, CCTV.
  13. The time I wanted to quit tennis and my parents made me finish the season. Not because I learned something about discipline or never giving up, but I suppose I realized it wasn’t the end of the world to participate for a few more weeks. (It did, however, clarify that – for me -competition takes the fun out of activities.)
  14. My early jobs as a sports photographer’s printing assistant, an office assistant, and a day camp counselor.
  15. The first time I held a check over $1,000 was when my grand-mère helped cover expenses for a summer volunteer internship in another country.
  16. Talented teachers whose passion for their subject awakened my interests in things like psychology.
  17. A chance to be part of Mr. Wenz’s championship choir, though the real value was all he taught us about life and being part of something meaningful as a group.
  18. The works of C.S. Lewis, Fr. Richard Rohr, and other author-mentors who expanded my views of theology, salvation, and justice beyond America’s narrow version of Christianity.
  19. A liberal arts education that allowed me to pursue interests in French, Psychology, and Philosophy with all kinds of electives.
  20. College friends and professors who told me hard truths and opened my eyes to ways I needed to grow.
  21. The hilarious professor who taught physics for non-science majors. I appreciated flexing that side of my brain, and he made it fun. (I still have my notebook from that class, where I wrote down his outrageous examples and funny asides.)
  22. Living in an amazing on-campus house, charged with producing weekend events, and discovering my knack for event planning.
  23. The chance to volunteer with Special Olympics and other service projects that opened my eyes.
  24. The chance to study abroad in Paris and Florence, and intern for two summers in the Dominican Republic. Meeting long-term travelers and learning languages.
  25. A supervisor who reflected to me another hard truth about how I come across to other people when working under stress – opening my eyes more ways I still needed to grow.
  26. An ankle injury in college taught me how hard it can be to rebuild fitness, which led me to develop a daily habit of exercise so it’s easier to keep going than to stop.
  27. Jobs in college like grading Statistics papers, supporting the Entrepreneurial Leaders class, planning campus events, typing for the French teacher, being an RA for upper classmen, and barista at a coffeeshop on campus.
  28. Being part of the early Millennial generation who remembers life before 9/11 and cell phones. We are the outliers who are fluent in both analog and digital.
  29. Meeting Jedd and the many “signs and wonders” that brought us together when I thought there couldn’t be someone who wanted to do life the same way I do.
  30. The pastor who told us “pre-marital counseling” as soon as he met us, not knowing we had just been debating whether it would be worth the cost. … It was worth the cost.
  31. Working at a University with student leaders who were passionate about justice, and all the benefits of sharing life on campus with students and fellow staff.
  32. Traveling with students to Nicaragua and the US/Mexico Border immersion experience for my job. I’ve never learned so much (that stuck with me) in such a short time.
  33. The time my colleague refused to take on responsibilities outside of her role when our office didn’t have a Director. It was a first hand lesson in healthy boundaries – even when there’s a need that you could technically fulfill, why say yes unless it helps both you and the organization thrive?
  34. That “heated discussion” with Jedd when we had money in escrow to buy a house in Portland, and I realized I’d always regret it if we didn’t try living abroad before we settled down. It wasn’t a fun moment at the time, but I’m so thankful we went through it.
  35. Friends from our life group who let us live with them while in limbo – after we had quit our jobs and before our Peace Corps assignment. Jedd and I both actually liked sharing life together with other families, more than we expected. (And I appreciate the grace I was given for leaving the garage door open.)
  36. Peace Corps in rural Jamaica – the “toughest job you’ll ever love” – and all the amazing people in our community. That experience changed how we see the world, how we travel, and gave us a sense of resilience.
  37. Discovering the possibility of becoming digital nomads, thanks to the internet, and our first freelance clients that helped make our own nomadic experiment possible.
  38. The first baby who made me an Aunty, born – as if a personal birthday gift – on the day before my birthday!
  39. Seeing all our brothers become fathers, getting to know our beloved nieces and nephews, and watching them become their own people.
  40. Living part of each year with my parents, being in each other’s “bubble” during the pandemic, daily walks after dinner, and sharing the benefits of multi-generational living.
  41. Surviving the collective trauma that was 2020 (and beyond) with remote work skills and Peace-Corps-level resilience already under our belt.
  42. The loss of freelance clients from the pandemic that opened up new opportunities to co-create Chicca’s Cooking Club.
  43. Being a solopreneur, getting to set my own schedule, collaborating with people in different parts of the world, and constantly learning as both the travel and the online business landscape continue to shift.
  44. All the people I’ve crossed paths with in my life – those close to home and far away – who have taught me something, whether they meant to or not. 🙂
Michelle and Jedd
Bonus item: I’m also fortunate to have a younger, strapping husband who can carry me to the car when my foot needs a rest!
* Jedd Thoughts

41 Life Lessons (Jedd Style)

Life lessons, reflections, and observations from my 41 years on Earth

Michelle wrote a similar post a couple of years ago and I wanted to do something similar.

Most have come from others so I don’t claim any originality. These are little nuggets that I want to make sure my nieces and nephews know. Things that I wished a younger version of me knew but I’m glad I know these things now as an adult.

And since I value the wisdom of others, I’d love to hear in the comments below any life lesson (big or small) that is important to you that you’d be willing to share with me.

Continue reading “41 Life Lessons (Jedd Style)” →
* Michelle Thoughts

The Power of Habit: How to Reprogram a Better You

(This post was originally published in 2014 on a different site)


I read a fantastic book by Charles Duhigg: The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business. If I could create a list of books that would be compulsory reading for every human being, this book would be on it.

If you can’t read the book, watch this half-hour video where Jonathan Fields interviews the author.

Lessons from the book: The Power of Habit

Habits are the cornerstone of intentional living.

Continue reading “The Power of Habit: How to Reprogram a Better You” →
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* Michelle Thoughts

Love People. Use Things.

Originally written: August 2022

We’ve been in the midst of a distressing situation that I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. It has led me to reflect on the following philosophy (or theology) behind the situation, and I wonder if it rings true for anyone else:

I believe we are meant to *love* people and *use* things.

You might say, “I love pizza.” But that’s just semantics.

Do we want what’s best for the pizza? Do we care that the pizza flourishes in the future? Do we need to protect the pizza’s heart and soul?

No.

We want to consume the pizza. We want to use it for our pleasure and our sustenance.

We use the things. We love the people.

Continue reading “Love People. Use Things.” →
* Michelle Thoughts, Intentional Living

How can I live out LOVE? An analytical introvert’s quest

LOVE (verb): To want what is best for another. Willingness to serve another’s wellbeing without reciprocation.

Indeed, the pitch we were meant to live at is love. Life never feels quite right unless love is the best and greatest part of it. … Once we are awakened to love as the lifelong purpose of our hearts, then feeling love for all the world becomes the meaning – and greatest joy – of living.

David Richo, The Sacred Heart of the World

This year, as I came to the 40 year mark in my life, I felt compelled to investigate Love. Specifically:

What does it mean for me (an intorvert, INTJ, Enneagram 5) to live out God’s Love in this world?

Continue reading “How can I live out LOVE? An analytical introvert’s quest” →
* Michelle Thoughts, Intentional Living

30+ Life Lessons From 40 Years of Life

Life lessons, reflections, and observations from my 40 years on Earth

I’ve always appreciated learning what wisdom others have gleaned from their experiences, and I hope perhaps something here might be helpful to someone else’s journey.

40 is a lot of things so I’ve started with what I have and may continue to add more as this year progresses…

Continue reading “30+ Life Lessons From 40 Years of Life” →
* Michelle Thoughts, Intentional Living

My Favorite Quotes Collection

Hat tip to author and blogger, Tsh Oxenreider, for the Commonplace Notebook idea. This is my own digital collection of inspiring and meaningful quotations about intentional living, faith, achievement, work, life, and more.

Please check back as I’ll continue to update this page…

Comparison is the thief of joy.

T. Roosevelt

If you really want something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

Jim Rohn

There are no great acts, only small acts done with great love.

Mother Theresa
Continue reading “My Favorite Quotes Collection” →
* Michelle Thoughts

The 6 Best Decisions I Made in College

I wrote this a few years ago, thinking about all the high school graduates out there who are moving on to college. These are a few words of advice from my own experience in college.

Jedd and I graduated from our (separate) Universities in 2005. Looking back, six things stand out in terms of the decisions I would make again in a heartbeat. Everyone’s experience in college is unique, to be sure, but hopefully these thoughts will connect with a few people and help them find their own way in this pivotal time of life.

1) Studying Abroad

Continue reading “The 6 Best Decisions I Made in College” →

* Jedd Thoughts

A Season To Grow Strong Roots

Every year I write a birthday post reflecting on something I’ve learned in the past year about myself (and thoughts about getting older). It’s a great way to see where I’ve been, who I am today, and hopefully reflects the person I am working on becoming.  


Celebrating a birthday is hard this year.

In general, I’ve never been one to make a big fuss about birthdays, but recently I’ve seen them as a great way to reflect and give thanks for all the experiences I’ve had and thanks for all the people I’ve met that brought me to where I am today.

As you know, 2020 isn’t the year we all thought it would be and these days, it doesn’t feel appropriate to celebrate. But I still have hope that things will get better and that there are many reasons to “be thankful” (as my Dad would often say) amidst the uncertainty and challenges we all face. Continue reading “A Season To Grow Strong Roots” →

* Michelle Thoughts, Intentional Living

Reflective Journal Prompts for Intentional Living

I’ve kept a personal journal fairly regularly since grade school. Being a practical person, most of my journal entries have simply been records of what happened.

In high school, I tried a different approach. I bought a big, textbook-sized journal and began processing concepts, trying to grasp new ideas by wrestling them onto a page in my own words. It was something I referred back to often and enjoyed immensely.

Recently, I’ve kept up a personal journal to record significant happenings and check in with my own well-being. I average making an entry once or twice a week, but I try not to worry about the timing. I’ve also used a combination of real notebooks and Evernote on my laptop to take notes on the various things I’m learning from books, workshops, etc.

Then, once a year, Jedd and I take time to do some intentional reflection during our Annual Review. This takes place every December. We look back on the previous year to analyze what went well, what we could do better. From there, we plot out our goals for the year to come.

The Annual Review has become such a useful and impactful practice. I realized I was craving more of that deep reflection throughout the year. 

Even though I continue to journal fairly regularly, I haven’t actually been using the journal for deeper reflection. It’s been more of a quick record-keeping practice. As an introvert who processes thoughts internally, journaling is an under-utilized tool for better self-awareness and personal growth.

So I decided to be more intentional about journaling. I thought I’d share my new plan, in case it’s helpful to anyone else. Continue reading “Reflective Journal Prompts for Intentional Living” →