* Jedd Thoughts, * Life Updates

What Exactly Do You Do? – Intro


So as most of you know, Michelle and I are in a holding pattern.  Our Epic Road Trip was epic, but now we wait for a new placement from Peace Corps (which can take a couple of months) and the earliest we could potentially leave the country and serve would be January of next year.

*Side Note* Thanks again to everyone who has helped us find house-sitting opportunities (our calendar is getting pretty full but if you think we could still be of some help, please feel free to contact us).

With housing squared away, the next question everyone seems to be asking us recently has been about employment.  Michelle has been doing a lot of our personal management, looking for volunteer opportunities, and helping out with house projects for places that we house-sit (You can also see her personal list of things she’s working on here). As for me, I have mentioned before that I am working for a company called Relevant Studios but haven’t really explained anything about my job or the company I work for.

I’ve never really had to explain what I did for work or who I worked for as most people had heard about Admission Counseling and about Colleges and Universities.  Most people who know me know that I am not a visual artist. I can’t really make art which explains why most people I know chuckle or seem surprised when I tell them that I work for a Design/Brand Management studio. And of course there is the question of, what is a Design/Brand Management Studio?

There is no simple answer.

I did feel though that it is important for me to explain what I do and what our studio does because it fits well with being “Simply Intentional” (what Michelle and I are all about). More importantly though, this information can be very valuable to you regarding the work you do or on a personal level. There are a lot of businesses and organizations (and dare I say individuals, myself included) who need better brand management. I say better because in a way, we are all brand managers whether we know it or not (more to come on this).  I’m hoping that you’ll have an “aha” realization like I did when I learned about this industry and see how you can apply this information for your own work or lives.

There’s basically 3 things I’ll talk about:
1.  Intentional Communication
2. Brand Management
3. Relevant Studios – Who We Are & What We Do

Stay tuned, more to come in the next coming days…

* Life Updates, Other Travels

“Home is Where the Heart is”


Well….the Epic Road Trip will officially end in exactly a week and it’s been….epic (we will recap later). In the mean time, we now face the reality that living from a suitcase is not just for travel and vacation, but an actuality (and we are actually ok with that).

Michelle and I have chosen to embrace this time of freedom and flexibility (from now, till early spring of next year while we wait for a new Peace Corps placement). In the mean time though, we do have to consider what our next steps will be.

1. I (Jedd) will continue to work at Relevant Studios and also work on building up volunteer hours to become certified to do ESL teaching for the Peace Corps (to catch up to Michelle’s awesome skill set).

2. Michelle will try and find an internship or p/t work with a non-profit along with continuing do research on potentially cool opportunities that take part of (domestically and internationally).

Here’s where you come in and can potentially help us.

As I mentioned, our most pressing and tentative issue is housing. We don’t want to commit to an apartment (because of a lease) but don’t have anything technically set.  So….here’s our thoughts: We would like to find temporary housing situations that are mutually beneficial.

*We are available from July 5th – Spring 2012*

– We can house sit (Pets or no pets) for any period of time. Portland/Vancouver area preferred, but open to any house-sitting options. We can be mobile from time to time, but need to make Portland area our home base.

– We would love to share housing (in exchange for housework projects, farm work (we would love to live on a Farm), cooking, child care, etc…)

– Get paid to drive someone’s RV around the country (just kidding, but also serious).

We need your help because you know us and you might know someone who could help us (or yourself). Please feel free to send them our email and the link to this blog (if you don’t have it, comment below and we’ll get it to you).  Thanks to many of you who have already tried to help connect us with potential opportunities and as always, for the support and love you have given us during this “adventurous” time in our lives.

J&M

* Jedd Thoughts, Other Travels

A Snapshot of Our Trip So Far…

Yellowstone

If I have learned/or realized one thing on this trip so far (and you can see it in the pictures and in the videos) its’ that there is so much too see and experience in this world. Learning about and watching geysers powered by volcanic activity. Driving by towns with populations less then 500 and with no stoplight. Visiting a big city with a unique history and culture. Seeing amazing arches carved and created by mother nature.  I am humbled by it all.  I am incredibly grateful, even overwhelmed to have seen such sights and then instantly, I am also aware that there is so much in this world I have not seen or experienced. And unlike my usual self, I’ll be brief and let the pictures do the talking…

Old Faithful
Salt Lake


Arches
Canyonlands
Capitol Reef
Arches



See more from our road trip here (videos included):
Epic Road Trip Day One: 4 States in 2 Days
Yellowstone  Jackson  Exploring Utah   Bryce and Zion
Grand Canyon  Las Vegas National Park  Sequoia and King’s Canyon
Yosemite!  Redwoods and the Oregon Coast
Away We Go! Our National Parks Road Trip Itinerary

* Jedd Thoughts, Other Travels, Videos

Epic Road Trip Day One: 4 States in 2 days….

Here’s a quick snapshot of the last 48 hours. Michelle will be making a video after every major stop so keep checking back for more. You can always subscribe to the blog on the right too.

We are off to Yellowstone. Much love.

* Jedd Thoughts, Other Travels

A Preview of our Upcoming Adventure…

So far, the beginning of our “whatever happens” adventure has been going great. It has been great to spend time with family and enjoy Hawaii. Coming up this weekend though, we start our awesome (longest road trip either of us has taken) road trip to visit many of the national parks of the west (Yellowstone, Bryce, Zion, Grand Canyon, Yosemite, Redwoods, etc…).

This video (by amazing videographer and artist, Jesse Rosten) is just a small preview of one of the  national parks we are going to visit. I am hoping that all the parks have this whimsical, epic sense to them (I’m also hoping gas prices go down). It’s going to be a great trip. We promise to post pictures and thoughts as we go along. Feel free to subscribe for email updates on the right side of our site. Enjoy!

* Jedd Thoughts, * Life Updates, Other Travels, Videos

Enjoying Things You Love With People You Love

I don’t think the concept of “enjoying things you love with people you love” is ground breaking or earth shattering. If anything, it’s a simple life goal for me, a simple reminder of what is important in life. Unlike my typical posts where I go on and on, I’ll just let you enjoy a video Michelle made from a recent beach trip in Hawaii my family took this past weekend, doing what we do best: enjoying things we love to do, with the people we love the most.

* Jedd Thoughts, * Life Updates, * Peace Corps

You want to send us where?


So if you have been following our lives for the past year, you know that we have been anxiously waiting to hear from the Peace Corps (PC) regarding our placement of service (if you have no idea what I’m talking about you can recap here).

This past Monday we received a call from a PC placement officer to talk about a potential match for our skills (it turns out that placing a couple, especially one with two different jobs, is more difficult than a single volunteer). Michelle and I were stoked. We had been waiting anxiously, checking the mail obsessively, and now we would learn where we would live for the next 27 months (something we had been preparing for the last 9 months).  Gary (not his real name) got straight to it, “We would like to send you to the North Africa/Middle East region starting in September.”

*Silence*

I looked at Michelle’s face and immediately could see and sense her heart had broken. Gary explained to us some of the particulars and about their process, but then focused on the true issue at hand, “I can sense that your energy is not the same when we first started this conversation.”  He was right. For me, I was disappointed with the news, but was open to the possibility. My battle has always been accepting that I could actually live abroad for two years (something I have fought with myself for a long time) so for me, where we go wasn’t as important as the fact of actually going.  For Michelle, it has been a dream of hers for so long to live in Sub-Saharan Africa. Before Monday, we had believed and convinced ourselves that this was the story that would happen for us but now, at least for Michelle, it felt like that dream was shattered.

We asked to have some time to make a decision. If we accepted we would leave in September. If we didn’t accept, what would we do next?

It’s not that we have anything strongly against the region, there is just no particular draw, no sense of call or excitement when we thought about it. At best we could see how interesting it could be, but there didn’t even seem to be a sense of wanderlust.

Needless to say its been a challenging week. We took walks. We prayed. We spoke to friends abroad. We spoke to former PC volunteers. We prayed some more. While we had hoped for a clear, distinct, yes or no, everyone was encouraging, supportive, and truly believed that we would be blessed in whatever decision we made. Everyone gave us incredible insight, love, and support.  It boiled down to two things: 1st. Do we say yes because it’s a great opportunity even though we are not excited about the placement? Because its something we feel like we have to do? Or, do we say no and start all over again, wait for something else that we might be more excited about. Each had its pros and cons.

We decided NOT to take the placement.

We spoke with Gary today and explained that we tried to embrace the idea of going to the region we were selected for, but that it didn’t feel right. We were both scared that this would mean our PC opportunity had passed but to our relief, Gary appreciated our honesty and thoughtful consideration and assured us he would work to try and find us another placement. So we are back in the waiting game. I give PC credit, they know their process well and have been very honest with us from the beginning. They told us not to quit our jobs (which we did), not to give up housing (which we move out this week), they told us anything can happen with our placement (which it did), and they told us it can be a long process (which it might end up being, 9 months and counting). We had been telling everyone about our PC service to Africa, and that we would be leaving in July (our awesome families were already putting together going away parties) and now, it’s almost back to square one. We are still committed to seeing if we can get a PC placement, but the next time those programs would leave would be after January 1st, 2012!!!

So what’s next? Great question.

For now we are going to explore other opportunities to serve abroad. We will take a month and a half to travel, and from June – December we will need to find a place to live and find additional employment. Currently I work part-time for Relevant Studios and am happy that I will be able to stay there longer.

So thank you for your thoughts and prayers. Thank you for being with us on this crazy journey. Life before Monday was a lot different than life after Monday, but really, we are doing well. We are thankful for the privilege to be even on this journey and as history has shown for both of us, surprises like this are not uncommon. I mean, we did meet and get married and believe me, we did not plan on that to happen. God is good. He has been and is always more than faithful to us and I hope that we can have the courage continue to trust in His plans. So here’s to whatever might happen next. We will keep you posted, and next time, I’ll have Michelle write because she’s more concise.

* Jedd Thoughts, Videos

The Danger of a Single Story: Choking on Hair


When I was young (9, 10, 11 – somewhere around there) I remember someone telling me that if you swallowed too many hairs, they would eventually clog up your throat and you would choke on those hairs and die. I imagine it was my older brother who told me this (thus the picture. Notice the JAMS shorts), or maybe one of my older cousins, or a good friend- but regardless, I believed it to be true. I was afraid of death and choking on hairs seemed like a crappy way to go.  For the next month or so, I developed a terrible spitting habit. Every time I felt or even thought I felt a hair in my mouth, I had to spit. I became a spitting machine- not so much that I was good at it but that I couldn’t stop. The thought of death by choking on hair was too much to bare. All I know is that one day, it occurred to me that others were not afraid of dying by swallowing hair. No one else at school was spitting as much as I was. And to be honest, I think I might have forgotten the reason for it all together (one of those rare moments to be thankful for a short attention span).

Call me gullible, but there is something powerful, dangerous, and very relative about this story from my past.  Recently, some great friends shared with Michelle and I the video below entitled “The Danger of a Single Story,” a TED talk by Chimamanda Adichie. After watching the talk, I was reminded that we often operate from closed-minded frameworks. A child might believe that they can die from swallowing hairs or that swallowing a watermelon seed causes a watermelon to grow in one’s stomach. But even in college, I was faced with “The Danger of a Single Story”.

It had only been about a month or so into my first semester as college freshmen. I was struggling to adjust to a new life away from family, friends, and pretty much all things that were familiar to me (Tacoma, WA is very different then Honolulu, HI).  One night I made instant curry in my dorm room and used chopsticks to eat my comfort food. A classmate that lived on the floor walked by my room, stopped to check out what I was doing, and decided to engage in conversation.

“What are you eating?”
“Instant curry”, I replied.
Unfamiliar with curry, he tried to take the conversation in another direction.
“You are using chopsticks to eat your food,” he exclaimed. “You do that because your Asian right?”
I was instantly bothered by this statement.
“Matt (made-up name), have you ever used chopsticks before?”
“Yeah,” he replied.
“Does that make you Asian?”

There is no right or wrong in this story. Matt was just trying to strike up conversation, but from his perspective, from what he knew about Asian culture, apparently all Asians use chopsticks to eat. I was bothered for a couple of reasons. One, I actually truly believe that the spoon is the best and most useful utensil of all (which I didn’t have with me at the time, I only had chopsticks); and two, at the time, I never really viewed myself as Asian (only in college did I start to get a sense that my race and ethnicity mattered). Could a world exist for Matt where someone who is Asian doesn’t know what chopsticks are?  Furthermore, in regards to my response back to him, does using chopsticks make you Asian?

Of course I have used similar logic that Matt used.

I confess: I believed that people living in Alaska lived with snow 24/7/365 and yes, that they lived in igloos. (I grew up on an island and had never seen snow before). I use to believe that you could not be Christian and drink beer.( One of my favorite Christian authors writes about the great conversations he has with friends about his faith over pints.)  I believed in the American Dream: to make enough money to retire, raise 2.5 children, and not live in debt (only to realize that there are other things to live for).

Call me naive, but there are too many examples of how we all operate from particular frame-works where we don’t know much about what we are talking about. There are too many ways where we can get trapped in a single way of thinking or living and not see things from other perspectives. “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” 1 Corinthians 13:11.

I can continue to believe that swallowing hair might kill me, or I can grow-up, realize the foolishness and dangers from believing in a single story and live my life to it’s fullest potential.

* Jedd Thoughts

What I Learned from Ghandhi and yes I like Coldplay music…

You must be the change you want to see in the world. -Mahatma Gandhi

This quote bugs me. The feeling can only be equated to the way I hate how much I like Coldplay music.  It’s too simple, too cliche, overplayed, overused, and yet, still undeniably good. And now that it’s too late to hide my cheesy taste in music and quotes, this specific quote from Gandhi has taken on new meaning for me recently (even though I have known this quote for many years).

I like to think of myself as an “idea guy,” a “dreamer”. I can’t stop thinking about the endless creative possibilities that can exist. Add my big mouth, my impatient, impulsive behavior and you have yourself an immature “kid”. You have a person constantly needing reminders that life isn’t about him (even though I think I have good intentions).

Work has been very stressful recently. I work for a public institution that, like many others, are overwhelmed, overworked, underpaid, understaffed, and always criticized. And while I know we can do better, I am proud of the people that I work alongside and blessed to work with the people we serve. But knowing we can do better gets at me. I want to exhaust every option before I accept “No”, “We just can’t”. I want to know why. While most of the times I keep the “kid” in check, there have been rare occasions where I lose control. At work the “kid” comes in the form of unwanted ideas and suggestions. My co-worker (and good friend) pointed out that at times, even though I want to help, even though I may be right, some of my suggestions are unwanted. I want to change things around me. I sometimes want to change others. Shouldn’t I be focusing on my own life? It hit me hard. Do I make suggestions and provide ideas on how to help my own life? Do I like when others do this to me? Do I have my ish all figured out?

And the more I thought about this, the more the hits kept coming.

I realized that I’ve done this too my best friend. I’ll tell him what I like or don’t like about his music before being asked.  I’ve done this to my brothers. I’ll tell them what I think they can do to start their businesses, to be more healthy, to improve on their lives.  I do this with Michelle (we do this to each other). I’ve probably done this with some of you (sorry). I try to fix, to solve, to suggest, try to make the world a better place, but really, instead of focusing so much attention outward, I only need to look inward to see the things that need fixing.

A couple of years ago, Michelle and I went to hear Shaine Claiborne (Author of one of our favorite books – Irresistible Revolution) and his friend talk about living in community. A random guy asked them during Q&A about what he and his wife could do to serve an impoverished community that they just moved into. The response from Shaine’s friend surprised me: “Work on your marriage,” he said. “Have a really good marriage and you will see how your marriage serves the people in your community,” he added.  Start inward, work outward. Want a better marriage or relationship with others? Start inward. Work on yourself.

It’s only when I truly embrace this concept of “Be the Change” does the “kid” get humbled to see how messed up his own life is, how much he still can learn. It’s only through this kind of humility that we can truly be in relationship with others. Otherwise we are just bullies,  people who act fake or think they have their ish together. If people want your advice, they’ll ask for it. If they don’t want your advice, giving it to them won’t change their mind any way.

It reminds me of folks’ online comments after every news article (go to any news site and after every article read the ridiculousness). It’s easy to hide behind an anonymous name and bash on others or put out suggestions thinking that you know what’s right for everyone. If most of these people (myself included) just focused on the stuff we need to work out in our lives, the world would probably be a better place. No one knows yourself better than you. No one can make changes for your life better than you.

“You must be the change you want to see in the world” are probably more appropriate lyrics than Coldplays’ “I will try….to fix you(Which of course is still one of my favorite songs).

* Jedd Thoughts, * Life Updates, * Peace Corps

Chapter 28: Plans For Africa (How I Got Here)

If all goes according to plan, Michelle and I are going to Africa (country TBD) in July to start a 27 month commitment to serve as Peace Corps volunteers. It will be the biggest and most life-changing decision each of us has ever made (since getting married). We know that there is a lot that could happen from now till then but for now, the decision and commitment to this journey has been made. We have given a heads up to our places of work. We have already started to plan how we want to sell most of our possessions. We have already started to plan how we want to spend the last couple of months in-country before leaving. We are both excited, a bit nervous, and easily overwhelmed thinking about how much life will change for us in the upcoming months and years.

It has been 28 years in the making (thus the blog title) but I’ll just share my perspective on how the last three years has led to this point in our lives.

Three years ago I had a life plan (well sort of). I was looking to find a career field that matched my values and passions, buy my first car, own my first pet (a dog), and settle in my own place in a new city I had come to love.

When I moved to Portland to start a new job, I was also trying to start a new life. I was trying to break free from the way that people had come to know me and I was trying to break free from the way I had come to know myself. Portland offered a chance to redefine myself, to redefine my life. It was also the first time I had truly accepted the fact that I might not ever get married and that would actually be ok, but of course, God had other plans for me and introduced the most beautiful plot twist to my life: Michelle.

Michelle and I recently finished reading (She doesn’t think it’s reading because we listened to an audio book. I still think its reading) “A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life” by Donald Miller. Michelle and I like Donald Miller. He’s down to earth, real, transparent, writes well, and his personal stories about faith and life is encouraging and inspiring (he also happens to live and write about Portland which makes reading/listening to his stories even better because we can visualize what he talks about). I wouldn’t mind having a beer with him and talking about faith and life.

“A Million Miles in a Thousand Years…” is Donald Miller’s explanation of what “story” is, the necessary elements and its importance, and how these elements started showing up in his own life.  He shared that in life many people do not recognize that everyday we are living a story, and more importantly, that we have a lot of creative authorship of our own lives/stories. It is with this understanding that we have been able to make sense of all that is going on in our lives today; we are trying to write what we hope will be a better story.

Since Michelle has entered my story, a lot of the things that I wanted for my life are still there but look very different. I like to tell people that since meeting her I am healthier, fiscally more responsible, more social justice minded, more willing to engage in difficult issues, more willing to travel, more willing to change (which makes me sound like I was pretty miserable without her, lol). She would probably say that I support the lifestyle that she has always lived and also challenge her to grow as well.

I recently told my arch-nemesis and best friend Justin, our big plans, and his reaction surprised me. “Jedd, is going to Africa something you really want to do, or something Michelle wants to do?” I could see that he was still thinking of the old Jedd (and I can’t blame him). Yes, Michelle has been a huge influence in many of the changes in my life, but the real difference has been the belief in myself and the trust in God to really live. To take all of the lessons and things that I believe to be true and important in my life, and to make choices that support who I know God has called me (and Michelle) to be.

While in many ways living away from our family and friends, leaving our jobs and current lives may not make any sense at all, and yet it makes perfect sense. The beauty of it all is the way in which our individual stories have been woven together and that instead of following a life plan that seemed generic to me, we are now embarking on a path where there is so much uncertainty, and though scary, seems much more interesting.

“If the point of life is the same as the point of a story, the point of life is character transformation. If I got any comfort as I set out on my first story, it was that in nearly every story, the protagonist is transformed. He’s a jerk at the beginning and nice at the end, or a coward at the beginning and brave at the end. If the character doesn’t change, the story hasn’t happened yet. And if story is derived from real life, if story is just a condensed version of life then life itself may be designed to change us so that we evolve from one kind of person to another. ”
Donald Miller

I can only imagine the ways in which our lives will be transformed in the coming months and years…

Update 1/16/11 From Michelle:

For those who may be wondering about more details, we have been “Nominated” for Peace Corps which gives us a region (Africa), departure month (July), and job categories (Michelle- secondary school ESL, Jedd- Community Development). We have submitted our extensive medical reviews and are currently waiting for those to be reviewed by Peace Corps before we can receive our official Invitation, which reveals the rest of the details of our assignment like the country and exact departure date. This process can take several months so we’re hoping to hear back sometime between February (if we’re lucky) and April. We promise to update everyone as soon as we know more!